As a teenager Paula Harding embarked on a career as an NHS nurse. Committed to making the world a better place, she met her soul mate after a chance encounter during a family visit to West Germany in 1984. She met and fell in love with a dashing young soldier who was passionately loyal to the service of his country and determined to make the world a safer place. Having witnessed conflict at first hand over three decades, she was prepared for all eventual outcomes as her husband once more departed for war. As a busy mother of two, she focused on routine and future planning. These two disciplines have since become the bedrock of resilience as she struggled to come to terms with her loss and prevent the family from falling apart amidst the greatest challenge of anyone’s life.